Oh yes, been there, done that. We ARE human, not saints, after all. I have also done my share of repair work. And after the repair, after honest apologizing, you are not left diminished, nor is the other person. You are both left more REAL. and your relationship rests on firmer ground. Forgiving is easy once you are willing to be totally responsible for your own part in any interaction, to own up to what you put out there and willing to "sacrifice" victimhood and martyrdom. Even the version of "truth" that you thought was the valid one. (It wasn't, there are as many versions as there are people having them.) Then you are free. To learn and to grow and to love.
Oh yes, been there, done that. We ARE human, not saints, after all. I have also done my share of repair work. And after the repair, after honest apologizing, you are not left diminished, nor is the other person. You are both left more REAL. and your relationship rests on firmer ground. Forgiving is easy once you are willing to be totally responsible for your own part in any interaction, to own up to what you put out there and willing to "sacrifice" victimhood and martyrdom. Even the version of "truth" that you thought was the valid one. (It wasn't, there are as many versions as there are people having them.) Then you are free. To learn and to grow and to love.
You are easy to love. Thank you!